Managing Pain with Sex & Sexual Dysfunction
Valentine’s Day has always been one of my favorite holidays, primarily thanks to having an elementary school teacher for a mom. For me this holiday is one of chocolates and heart-shaped pancakes.
However, after working in my profession for over a decade I am aware that for people experiencing unwanted pain with sex or any form of sexual dysfunction this holiday may bring a lot of dread and hard feelings.
I am here to remind you that pain with sex is VERY common, but shouldn’t be accepted as normal! Studies suggest around 1-5% of males and 10-20% of women experience pain with sex and that 75% of women will experience pain with sex at some point in their life. It is estimated that around 31% of men and 43% of women will report some sort of sexual dysfunction. This may include erectile dysfunction, arousal disorders, low libido/desire, issues with orgasm or premature ejaculation. While sexual health concerns can feel isolating; keep in mind that you are not alone.
It is important to remember that sex is an umbrella term and does not always need to involve penetration. Don’t limit yourself to just one activity when there is a whole world of fun to be had between the sheets, or on the floor, or the counter. You might consider using a toy or try a new lube. Maybe watch a romantic movie together or listen to some erotica. Maybe pretend you’re back in high school and stick to making out. Sometimes building anticipation can be more fun than the act itself.
The cause of sexual dysfunction is usually multifactorial. A person’s symptoms may be due to hormonal imbalances, pelvic floor muscle dysfunction, certain life events ( menopause or childbirth), recent surgeries or medical conditions (ex. Endometriosis, Cancer, Diabetes), certain medications; anxiety, stress or relationship issues. Which is why it is important to consult a provider that specializes in sexual medicine to determine what is going on and help you get an individualized treatment plan. Someone may need to work with several providers such as a therapist, a physical or occupational therapist, a gynecologist, a urologist or an acupuncturist to name a few!
Bottomline: If you are experiencing unwanted pain with sex or sexual health concerns help is out there! So no need to suffer in silence. I am happy to work with people through virtual visits to address anything from pain with sex, vaginismus, erectile dysfunction or a variety of other sexual health issues. If you are ready for less pain and more pleasure, reach out, because sex should be pleasurable for everyone!
